It seems that more and more men especially in Nairobi are marrying at a much later date in their lives. Could it be fear of commitment or what is causing them to be senior bachelors? You’d find them in pubs complaining of how demanding the Nairobi ‘Mami’ has become from they are too clingy to they are absolute gold diggers. Whatever the reason that is keeping them bachelors they should know that at some point there will come that woman who will ‘tame’ them, so to speak. Men need women, they cannot survive without them, as much as they do not want to commit, at the end it gets monotonous and tiring to be changing women like curtains in the house. So when that point and time comes, they will find their Amal.
And who is Amal you ask? Amal is George Clooney’s wife, the woman who tamed the ever senior bachelor of all bachelors. Everyone was holding their breath waiting for the real woman that would make George Clooney to settle down with nothing less than marriage. He was the envy of most if not all men, he had it all, the money, power, influence and most importantly the looks to charm any and all beautiful women anywhere in the world. He was what is known as a ‘Modelizer’, a guy who only or mostly dates super models, so everything changed when he married Amal, not a super model. So what makes Amal what every woman should attain to be to bag that senior bachelor and what makes her tick that a man would consider ditching the bachelorhood scene?
Amal Clooney is beautiful
Let’s be real every bachelor wants a ridiculously beautiful woman by his arm, we are not the only ones who want arm candies, men thrive in being able to be envied by other men when he walks in with a gorgeous, sexy goddess on his arm. Amal Clooney is unreasonably beeeeeeautiful (whistles), I mean have you looked at her! She is all and everything it doesn’t help that she is British-Lebanese, an exotic creature I tell you. It may not be fair but bachelors seem to just want beautiful women around them.
A beautiful woman will upgrade your position in the Muthaiga Golf Club that you frequent as a rich single guy that wants to have drinks with fellow older rich men. You cannot be seen walking into the scene with a less than average woman on your toes. She needs to be all that, sexy, classy, smell really good and hair that is just perfect, no weaves that are older than three days. A well put together woman is what a man wants and as the bachelor, you need to be able to present her to the pack like presenting a peace offering to appease the gods. Nothing less than perfect will do it to impress your male folk that live for competition about who bagged the sexiest lass of them all.
A senior or just bachelor will not go for anything less than perfection when it comes to the woman they are dating. So as a woman you need to pull off all the stops when it comes to looking, feeling and living beauty. Know the latest trendiest fashion that is perfect for your body type, makeup is important to hide that pimple that will not go away, shoes, shoes have to be on point, no flats or less than six inch heels. Hair, do not even try hunting for a bachelor to pin down if you cannot afford expensive human hair weave pieces, you need the hair to be as real as possible, no tresses sticking out, nothing out of place. Make friends with perfumes…very expensive perfumes and not Nivea Deo, you should be dabbling in Princess Revolution by Vera Wang, Adventurous by Estee Lauder, Body Tender by Burberry etcetera, you need to smell good, to look good, to catch good.
Amal Clooney is driven
She attended Dr Challoner’s High School, a girls’ grammar school located in Little Chalfont, Buckinghamshire. She then studied at St. Hugh’s College, Oxford, where she received an Exhibition and the Shrigley Award. In 2000, Clooney graduated with a BA degree in Jurisprudence (Oxford’s equivalent to the LLB) from St. Hugh’s College, Oxford. The following year, in 2001, she entered New York University School of Law to study for the LLM degree, where she was a clerk for the clerkships program at the International Court of Justice. She received the Jack J. Katz Memorial Award for excellence in entertainment law.
As much as men deny it, they want a woman who is well learned and they can carry out intelligent conversations with. Men want a woman who is driven, ambitious and goes for what she wants. A woman who is confident oozes excitement and bold attraction. Every man wants to conquer such a woman. As a bachelor the man may seem to be hanging out with a woman who is not driven or even intelligent bragging about her beauty to the world, yet deep inside he wants a woman who can challenge him in every way.
For the woman if you want to get that senior bachelor to settle down, with you, then you need to have more than your knowledge of who is the current manager at Chelsea or global warming. You need to be able to critically analyze serious matters like the economy, investments, and political dynamics of the world among other things. You do not need a PHD to be knowledgeable with such information, the internet has made it easy and possible to increase your intelligent quotient.
Amal Clooney is a career woman
Amal Clooney is a British-Lebanese lawyer, activist, and author. She is a barrister at Doughty Street Chambers, specializing in international law and human rights. Her clients include Julian Assange, the founder of WikiLeaks, in his fight against extradition. She has also represented the former prime minister of Ukraine, Yulia Tymoshenko, and Canadian-Egyptian journalist Mohamed Fahmy.
Amal Clooney is not afraid to dabble in a career that is thought to be in the man’s field. She is a lawyer and has represented important people in the world without fear of political or country influence. She is not afraid to fight for what she thinks is right, in her activist role. A woman like this will not just stand by and watch her rights or that of others be violated. As your woman she will stand with you and fight for you to the death if need be. She is not afraid of others’ judgements or opinions, her commitment to you is what will make your relationship stronger and more stable.
Women if you want that senior bachelor to take you seriously then, you need to have that fearless streak in you. You need to believe in what you do and not what others will judge you with. You need to have a high level of confidence in yourself and the situation around you. To attract that eternal bachelor, you need to be able to stand up for yourself and your man if need be. A strong woman is most men’s weakness and they will be looking at you with a whole new set of eyes as someone they can trust with their business.
Amal Clooney is independent
Amal Clooney is fluent in Arabic, English and French. Learning all these languages takes a certain discipline and commitment. A woman who is not dependent on everything that the man has to offer is just perfect for you as a bachelor looking to finally settle down. A woman with outside interest other than yours will not only keep the relationship interesting but you will both have things to argue about and discuss. She will not be involved in everything in your life becoming annoying and clingy hence the relationship is not dependent but mutually inclusive.
Senior bachelors do not have the time for confrontations or neediness. So as a woman trying to get him to commit, you need to have your own thing going. You cannot be waiting for him to make all the plans or fix yourself in his plans all the time. Being too clingy will just land you in the pile of ‘I dated that chic’. Have something that is just your own that makes you that much more confident and exciting. Learn something new, take up a hobby that does not involve him, just do something outside the relationship that can keep you busy, hence much happier.
Amal Clooney is influential
In 2004, she worked at the International Court of Justice and was one of two NYU-sponsored clerks at the Court. She clerked under Judge Vladen S. Vereshchetin from Russia and Judge Nabil Elaraby from Egypt. She worked in the Office of the Prosecutor at the UN Special Tribunal for Lebanon and at the International Criminal Tribunal for the former Yugoslavia. Clooney returned to Britain in 2010, where she became a barrister in London (Bar of England & Wales, Inner Temple) at Doughty Street Chambers. In 2013 Clooney was appointed to a number of United Nations commissions, including as adviser to Special Envoy Kofi Annan on Syria and as Counsel to the 2013 Drone Inquiry by UN human rights rapporteur Ben Emmerson QC into the use of drones in counter-terrorism operations.
A woman who is able to influence the decisions of high profile people is just perfect for any senior bachelor wanting to settle in a serious relationship. Due to her educational, emotional, psychological, intelligence she is able to wine and dine with influencers of society effortlessly and come out as an asset whenever her services are required. She will make you even more proud of the fact that she can represent your affairs to the relevant personalities and bare results in the end. Her influence will be an asset to both of you when it comes to personal and official business. Having the right contacts with the right people always comes in handy when business decisions have to be made. Her contacts and your contacts combined will be very significant in your day to day dealings with the high and mighty in society.
Since senior bachelors are usually occupied most of the time with business, if you want him to take you seriously as a woman, you need to know who is who in society. Not only know, but have a social or business relationship with them to be able to put something on the table in the relationship. If your only contact is the chief of your village, then forget being taken seriously. The man needs to discuss business, investments, plans which require the right contacts with the right people. So want to bag that senior bachelor? Be influential, know the right people and also let them know you, not just name dropping but actual contact with them.
Unless in very few circumstances, no man is ever a bachelor forever. There will always be that woman who will be able to claw her way into his heart and make him give up his bachelorhood ways. It takes patience and a hard skin to turn a man who is sworn to bachelorhood for life into a domesticated father.
The worst mistake you can ever make as a woman is to keep hoping that you will be that woman who finally tames the lion into settling. A bachelor will always settle at his own terms and in his own time. It is not a guarantee that just because you have done everything he will decide you are the one. So I leave you with these quotes to ponder on: “No matter how good of a woman you are, you will never be good enough to a man who isn’t ‘ready’” and “A woman can’t change a man because she loves him, a man changes himself because he loves her”
Additional information courtesy https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amal_Clooney
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